blah blah blah about the blog

When I started this blog over 3 years ago (!!!), I think my aim was to have a conversation about autism. No- that's not quite right- my aim was to have a conversation about my son who is autistic. About my life as his mother. A conversation with strangers who had something in common with me. In doing so, I hoped to quiet my mind (a phrase from my yoga DVD) and find comfort and familiarity in a situation that was sometimes uncomfortable and unfamiliar.

Over the next 300 posts (this turns out to be published post #302), I did find comfort. And I found friends. And I found a voice. I found a hobby that was/is quite rewarding to me.

But I didn't quite think through the ramifications of this little website. I told my family about it- mostly because I didn't want them to think I was hiding something from them- sneaking down to the basement to clickity-clack on my secret computer project. But I didn't tell anyone else. None of my real-life friends or co-workers. No one.

It wasn't a deep, dark secret or anything, but more like this: say I decided to take up tap dancing or some other new interest; I might not be that good at it, no one else might really give a shit about it, I would seem like I was fishing for compliments if I told everyone about it, and really, it's just something I'm doing for me- something private between me and my tap shoes. I talk to my new tap-dancing friends about it because it's something we share, but I'm not going to bore the hell out of my neighbors by telling them about it... ok, you get the analogy.

And then, after a couple years went by, it seemed even weirder to tell anyone, because if they surfed over to check it out they'd see all these dozens of posts of baggage, and it would seem like I had been keeping this big secret side of me, and again like I was fishing for compliments...

I realize that I'm waaay over-thinking this, but that is my tendency, isn't it?

But my mom and my husband, God bless them both, have been telling lots of folks about this blog. (And I never told them not to, so it's not like they're going against my wishes, or they didn't know that they were.) But a couple weeks ago they each told someone new about the blog who has a connection to Henry's school.

And that was just a little to close for comfort. So I freaked out and didn't write anything for awhile, briefly made the site for invite only (with myself as the only invitee!), and now I'm posting this little brain-dump.

I have lots of options: I could go to a invite-only site. I could keep this site but be more careful (more thoughtful?) about what I write. I could go to a host like vox that lets me decide what kind of post I'm writing (for public or private publishing). None of those options is totally appealing to me, I think because the first option eliminates the opportunity to meet new readers, while the other two options require more work on my part.

So that's the state of the blog right now. Please weigh in with your thoughts about blogging, privacy, and my over-reaction to the situation. I'd like to know what you think.